Although astrology names one of my signs most heavily concentrated traits as being selfish, I really work toward steering away from that characteristic; I'd like to think that it shows.
However, on contemplation, I've noticed that one aspect of my life is dominated by this trait. I am most certainly aware that my friends - my BEST friends - or those whom I consider closest to me, are indeed entities of which I choose to be selfish with.
If we're good friends, GOOD FRIENDS, we need to put each other first; Family, school, etc, I can understand, but at the same time I don't want to share you with someone else. If you're MY best friend, MY good friend, it becomes a challenge for me to accept that you might have the same bond with another person who I'm not close with.
For me, it's one or the other. I don't want to make grand effort, and waste a great amount of care for someone who is spreading the majority of their "friend" care between people, or among others.
I have good friends, BEST friends, and we love each other. We put each other first, and there's no competition for each others interests, because we put each other first. I'm not comfortable with being good friends with people who are untrustworthy, manipulative, ungrateful, and secretive. These qualities don't make for a healthy, realistically successful relationship. If I were to be-friend someone, truly, they would need to be open people. We would be able to trust each other, and be able to talk to one another when somethings troubling us - without feeling as though we're annoying that person, or without feeling as though we will be ridiculed.
Unfortunately, you can't change people; everyone's different. As long as we can accept each other for who we really are, no matter how different our personalities and views of the world are, then there will be no problems.
All I request in all of my friends, is that we treat each other with as much love, care, and kindness as humanly possible, without deterring ourselves as people.
